Teen Life Week 3. I want to introduce a really sweet, happy, God-Loving Girl to the readers of My Own Samaria’s Teen Life. Everyone meet Joy Blossom. The naming of Joy Blossom was easy for me because every time I see her, no matter how long it’s been she is so full of joy. Blossom came from the fact that she has already started to blossom into something beautiful inside that the whole world can see on the outside. Hugs are her thing, and they radiate so much love and happiness. Being in her presence without happiness in your heart isn’t possible. Thanks Joy Blossom for always making me smile. You are a joy to be around! Keep letting yourself blossom!
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So, What’s it like to be a teenager in 2016?
Being a teen can be very fun, but at the same time, it can be very hard and challenging. When you are a teen, you start going through a lot of changes, like the transitions from elementary school to middle school, and then from middle school to high school. As a teen, you might have a lot more responsibilities like doing chores, getting up in the morning on your own, doing your homework without being told, etc. On the plus side, you can start driving, you could start getting lots of great opportunities, and you can start making great new relationships with people.
Describe your day in detail?
First, I wake up and go to the bathroom. I brush my hair and teeth; then put on deodorant. I go to my room and start putting on my make-up. After I put on my make-up, I gather everything I need for school. I get on the bus and go to school. As soon as I get there, I go to the band room and practice what I’ve learned from guard. I go through all of my classes. On Monday’s I have guard practice. Every other day I ride the bus home. When I get home, I put my school things in my room, then start my homework. When I finish my homework, I start studying in my Bible for about 30 minutes. After that, I do my chores, get a shower, and finally get ready for bed.
Ahem. Joy Blossom… you forgot food. You have to eat. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Don’t forget food, it’s so good!
What do you struggle with?
There are a few things I struggle with such as: dealing with my dad who lives in Oklahoma, fear of what people think of me, pleasing everyone, and trying to put Jesus in everything I do.
What are the positives in your life?
Having great friends, an amazing church family, and being part of an amazing youth group
What are the negatives in your life?
Dealing with a stepdad who isn’t always the nicest person, never having much of a good father figure in my life, and always being negative
What is the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with?
My mom and dad splitting up and then my dad never being there for me afterward. He always broke his promises and always caused a lot of guilt and negativity in my life. I haven’t seen him in 5 years. He threatens to sign over his rights to me and leave me, and now we never really talk much.
Sometimes the hardest things we go through fuel us to become someone so far from that pain. Use that hardship for growth, but don’t ever let it define you. The struggle isn’t our definition, but the person we grow into after the storm is! Joy Blossom, you’re on the right path to understanding this at an early age. It doesn’t mean there’s not pain in the struggle. It just means we hand that pain over to someone/something much bigger than ourselves and then it doesn’t hurt near as bad.
Building on the question above, how did you get through that struggle?
I read in my Bible a lot about it and talked to people I was close to at my church like my pastor and my youth leader.
See what I mean… You are on the right path!
How many friends, true friends, would you say you have?
What’s the #1 thing you feel like your peers struggle with today?
Trying to fit in with everybody
Out of your friend circle, what is the hardest thing they’ve faced as a teenager?
Failing at something they thought was very important to them.
Depression and Suicide are a huge issue among teenagers. Have you ever struggled with depression or had suicidal thoughts? Why or Why not?
I have never struggled with depression or had suicidal thoughts. I knew that God created me in His perfect image, that I am worth a lot, and that I am very loved by many people.
Joy Blossom, could you tell that to all of us adults out here in the world struggling with body image? We need to hear that, take it in, accept it, and feel the love! You rock my world. Thank you!
Do you know of anyone your age who struggles with depression or suicidal thoughts?
What do you think the solution to these struggles is (Depression, Suicidal Thoughts, and any other Teenage Hardship)?
Be there for the people going through those things and go to a trusted adult about it.
What is your relationship like with your parents? Positive or Negative
Explain why you gave the answer above.
I have a mostly positive relationship with my mom. She is always there for me and takes care of me. But my dad, on the other hand, I don’t have as good of a relationship with him. I’ve been through a lot with my dad, and at the end of everything that happened, he pretty much left me.
What is something you would like your parents to know about you?
I want my mom to know how much I love her and thank her for always being there for me through everything. My dad, I would like him to know how he has always made me feel, how much he hurt me, and everything he has missed about me for the past 5 years.
How do you think your relationship could grow with your parents?
With my mom, I could open up to her a little more. With my dad, I honestly have no idea and don’t know if I want much of a relationship with him anymore.
Do you believe in God?
Absolutely, more than anything.
If Yes, What is your relationship with God like?
It is the BEST thing I ever chose to do. I am a follower of Christ, and I go to Him for everything. I go to church and youth every Sunday, and I read His word every chance I get. It was the BEST choice I EVER made.
It truly is the BEST choice EVER, right??? Joy Blossom you are such a blessing.
What makes you happy?
I have a roof over my head, people who love and care about me, a church and church family to go to, a HUGE God, a great life, and I’m just so blessed.
What are your goals and ambitions?
I want to be very successful in life and bring as many people to God as I can.
Never lose sight. That goal will not always be the easiest, but it will be worth it!
What do you want to be when you grow up?
A Math Teacher for deaf kids and/or an interpreter
What is your favorite song?
Blessed Redeemer, Call it Grace, or Set Me Free
What is your favorite band?
What is your favorite movie?
What is something you would like everyone to know about you?
One of the things I go by daily is Love God, Love People, and I love guard.
What do you feel like people think of you as a person?
I think most people like me, but there are some people who might not like my personality as much.
Do you feel beautiful? Yes/No
If yes, what makes you feel beautiful?
Everyday people always tell me how pretty I am, and I know that I was created in God’s perfect image.
How do you feel about yourself on a daily basis?
I feel like I’m smart, pretty, and a very loving person
Joy Blossom, you are all of those things: smart, pretty, and a very loving person. Awesome self analysis
What do you do for fun?
Work on things I learned from guard, hang out with friends, and help out in the community as much as I can.
What are your hobbies?
Painting, sketching, and guard
You owe me some art chick! Let’s get that on My Own Samaria asap!!
What is your favorite thing to do with your friends?
Go to the mall or somewhere where we can hang out together
What makes you laugh?
Funny jokes, my friends, and being unique and weird around people I’m comfortable with
What makes you cry?
My dad when he starts being negative around me and when people upset me
Do you have a boyfriend?
What’s the worst thing that you’ve ever gotten in trouble for?
Taking $5 off of my step-dad’s desk
What do you think people misunderstand about teenagers most?
Just because one teen is a certain way, doesn’t mean we are all that way.
A genie grants you three wishes, what are your wishes?
- To find a cure for cancer
- To have everyone know Christ
- To have a dad who I felt like was a dad to me and was a good dad
If you had the power to change the world, how would you change it?
I would help out all of the homeless people and the people in need
If you had one superpower what would it be?
Read people’s minds
Have you ever been bullied?
Yes, many times
Is bullying something that happens regularly at your school? If so, how do you handle it?
Bullying happens a lot at my school. If I see someone being bullied, I will try to help that person and go to a teacher.
How do you feel about gossip and how does it affect you?
I don’t like gossip because it can make so many things seem like it’s the wrong thing. Then, it keeps spreading through people and changing and becoming even worse. There have been a few times that a rumor has gotten spread about me or one of my friends, and it really upset me.
What/Who inspires you? Why?
My youth leader. She’s always been a great influence on me ever since I met her. She was always there for me when I needed someone, and she always encouraged me.
Who has been the biggest influence in your life? Why?
My mom. She taught me so much. She was always telling me right from wrong and the ways of life. I’ve looked up to my mother my whole life, and I have always tried to follow in her footsteps.
Who is the person you would most like to meet? Why?
My grandfather on my mom’s side. He passed away when my mom was 16 because of a heart attack. I’ve always heard so many great stories about him, and I would really love to meet him and get to know him.
What do you want to say to teens out there struggling?
Whatever you are going through, no matter how bad the situation, it will get better. 2Corinthians 4:17-18 “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So, if we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” This too shall pass. It won’t last forever. Don’t make long term designs for short term problems. You are loved, and you matter! Have hope and faith and try to stay positive!
You win my smiles for the day! Working on your interview on this yucky, rainy day has given me so many happy moments. Your words are so on point. You must have an awesome, Godly mentor/mentors in your life!
What do you want to say to adults out there reading this article?
No matter what happens between you and your kids, never leave them. It’s very hard growing up without both of your parents because one of them left you. No matter what we say to you, we always have and always will love you.
In the space below write anything that is on your heart or mind. Be completely open. This is your time!
Every person you encounter in your life is going through something, and they need to be loved. You never know what people are going through and you never know what they need. Even something so small such as a hug or even just a smile could be just the thing they needed at that moment. Be encouraging, up-lifting, and positive. Be the shining light that someone might need that day, and let your light shine bright.
Each time you hug me or anyone in life, God is using you. He uses you so often that you probably don’t even realize it yet. You are learning to be Jesus with skin on at an early age, and that will set the foundation for your future. Your hugs are your light. Never stop hugging!!!
So many people out there could really benefit from Joy Blossom’s words and actions. Hug someone today, even when you don’t really feel like it. Remember that God created you in His image, so love yourself. If you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, then you are saying God made a mistake. He doesn’t make mistakes. Embrace your flaws and find a way to use them to make this world a better place. Use Joy Blossom’s advice today and take your first step toward the journey to loving yourself. God uses teens too, and today he is using Joy Blossom. And, hug your kids a little tighter tonight. Let them know you love them, and that you will never leave them. Find a different way to make them feel a little more special. And, if you made a mistake, it’s not too late to correct it. It’s never too late. Love God, Love People.
Thank you, Joy Blossom, for participating in Teen Life. You may never know who’s life you impacted just by sharing your words. I’m sending my love your way today.
Peace, Love, and Jesus,